Friday, 21 July 2017

Cybernetic bullies–Send them to community service!

Following my previous post regarding the hatred in disguise, let me ask you if you agree that bullying should be punishable by law? 

Cybernetic bullies. Trolls. Harassment. Hatred. Arrogance. Lack of respect and humanity. Romanians have a great term for it: Grandomania = Delusions of grandeur. 
For me, these individuals are just soulless, brainless. Or mean. Not sure which one is worse.

Is there anyone who would like to create and share this petition? 
I am sure there are loads already, but this is slightly different because it gives a solution to a plague of our modern society.
I might do it in the future. I am terribly busy right now. I am working non-stop. Literally. And I am so exhausted. I should sleep and eat something as my head is spinning.

You bully once = a week of community service
Twice = two weeks.
You bully repeatedly and randomly = years. And so on.

No Trial. The evidence is on a public wall. You can't deny that. Bring them down!
You bullied online because they bullied you in person? I am sorry to hear that, really sorry. But that's not the solution. You are a bully on return.
You should not become crap because they fed you crap. You make a choice to be as crap as they are.
You are a bully so you should be punished too.

Don't turn into a monster because someone abused you. Work with your mind. Accept that some people are humanless. Not all though. You cannot abuse, harass, bully, beat, kill, rape someone because it happened to you. No.
If you do any of these despicable things to others, you are as despicable as your oppressors. There is no excuse for your criminal actions. You chose to be an oppressor. Nobody forced you. It wasn't automatic or instant. It took time and deliberate action.
You are a danger to yourself and others. Reflect and change. Be a good person. A Human.
Read my new book: It's Never Game Over for more.

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Tuesday, 18 July 2017

Overcoming writer's block after a fiasco

Overcoming writer’s block after a failure
A writer's block doesn’t come only when you are run out of ideas, no, that would be easy to fix.

In December 2016, when I published the first fragment of my memoir on Amazon, I failed big, big time.
Because of a self-imposed deadline, I couldn’t find anyone to proofread my work on time. Huge mistake. - Don’t do this. Ever.
Not even my closest friends who were aware of my struggles, couldn't overlook my linguistic errors. I expected not to be understood by strangers, but not by those so close to me.
Luckily, everybody loved the story. Which was amazing.
However, my mind went into a state of hibernation I was not prepared for. I lost my capacity of writing for several weeks. The fear of negative feedback and failure petrified me. I felt pressured and guilty for wasting precious time to the point I couldn't breathe.
But I got out of it. I finished my first novel that is now published after a year of setbacks. 

Here are my recommendations for anyone who struggles to get back on track after a massive flop.

Go mad, let the frustration and anger out - I shouted and imprecated until I lost my voice. Luckily, my daily job doesn’t require me to speak. - A small piece of advice: don’t act crazy in public, you might end up in a straightjacket. Take your car, drive away and stop where no one can hear you. Or even better, run until you’ll find a deserted area, away from living beings. And do it after you’ve taken a few days out of work; especially if your job requires speaking over the phone or dealing with customers.

Cry - I have cried for so, so many days. - You don’t have to be a woman, every man has a feminine side, use it now or never! By the way, crying cleans your eyes.

Don’t speak with people who cannot understand your struggles - They will make you feel worse, a lot worse. A friend of mine said: “Oh, please, people have no food on the table and you are whining because your book was a fiasco?” – I beg you, don’t attempt to strangle that person! Unless you are planning on taking several years out of this world. Hmmm… on a second thought, many inmates published successful books. Hmmm…

Write everything that comes into your mind - It doesn’t have to make sense. E.g. “I am a such a dead duck!” Or: “book, writing, pain, resilience, fury, dog, time, etc.”

Watch inspirational movies - Hollywood, Bollywood, Nollywood. Any genre: documentaries, science fiction, sports, comedies, etc. – I am not fond of body building or Arnold Schwarzenegger, but I watched “Pumping iron,” and I learned a lot. I also watched “3 Idiots,” a Hindi movie and I laughed with tears.

Clean the house, bathroom, windows, etc. - Rubbing thoroughly objects helps to dissipate the rage and gives other unexpected satisfactions. An immaculate mirror provides you with a clear idea of your ravishing (or ravished) aspect. Remember to shower and comb your hair.

Meditate and listen to positive affirmations - I cannot meditate, my mind is in a constant fracas. I’ll get there one day. But I listen to positve affirmations all the time. Isochronic and binaural beats too. 

Eat chocolate, ice cream, fruits, legumes, and drink plenty of water – I am not fond of chocolate, but I eat a lot when I cannot write.

Finally, give yourself a break! What is done is done. If you cannot fix it, unless you can so fix it then. If not, change the strategy, move on and keep fighting. Eventually, the block will dissipate if writing is what you want and love to do.
Everybody goes through periods of psychological lethargy; ask Hemingway, Maya Angelou, Stephen King, George R. R. Martin, etc., etc.
You are not done, you are just tired. The human mind is incredibly resourceful. 

It's got better for me, much much better. I write all the time now (when I am home from work). That's because my English improved and I have managed to publish some of my work.
If you cannot write, read your work, sleep and enjoy the nature. 

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Monday, 17 July 2017

Vegan Cake with with peanut butter

This recipe is for a friend of mine who fell in love with this cake. Love at first taste.
I can assure you he’s got great taste! It’s very soft, tender and you could eat without stopping for hours.


The recipe is based on one of my dearest recipes since I was a child. That was called “Snow White.” 
As you can see, this doesn’t have much white in it. I had issues finding it a name. I didn't have any inspiration. Sorry. The pictures are from old recipes. 
Unlike Snow White, this is utterly vegan. To make it you would need a white powder as a leavening (rising) agent called Ammonium bicarbonate. You can’t make it without. It’s fundamental. I couldn’t find it anywhere in England, nor Italy. Check Turkish or East European grocery shops.

Ingredients for 2 sheets – (or one that would be then cut into two pieces after baking it) you chose
  • 1 +1/2 cup of water
  • 3 tablespoons sunflower oil
  • 3 tablespoons of sugar
  • 1 teaspoon of Ammonium bicarbonate that you dissolved in grape/wine vinegar or lemon juice (1 spoon is enough I believe)
  • 2 cups wheat flour – or as necessary. You migh need more or less. Add a little at the time

Ingredients for the cream
  • 2 +1/2 glass of tap water
  • 5 tablespoons of sugar – you could add more or less, depends on your personal taste
  • 4 full tablespoons of flour (soy or almonds if you suffer from celiac disease.)
  • 1 jar of peanut butter (380 g or whatever). You could also add vegetable margarine (any type) or butter. But this recipe is intended for vegans (and vegetarians, of course).
  • Optional, but very indicated- 100 g of coarsely ground mix nuts (peanuts, almonds, walnuts, etc.) Toasted or fried if possible. They are more tasty, way tastier.
This dough is made with soy flour. Delicious!
Method of preparation
  • Put the water, oil, sugar, the ammonium bicarbonate in a bowl. Mix very well
  • Add the flour, knead until it becomes elastic, and can be handled easily
  • Divide the dough into two equal parts. It might be difficult to shape it well on a surface (table) so finish to spread the sheet on the back of baking tray after you put (the tray) it in the oven for a minute to be warm. Spread the dough with a rolling pin on the table. Then transfer it to the back of the tray that you covered in oil and flour
  • Put the tray in the oven for 7-10 minutes. Check often. It could take less. Warning, it doesn’t have to burn to be ready. It might look like it’s not been cooked properly, but when you take it out and allow to cool for 20 minutes or so it will be alright. For those who never baked this, is difficult to understand. Just listen, not more than 10 minutes.  Another thing, it will smell weird. It's normal. It doesn't taste that way, the smell is volatile. But be careful when you open the oven, it might knock you down. It happens to me all the time. However, it's great for blocked sinuses. Seriously, breathe that deep in your lungs and you'll see what I am talking about. 

They should be white ... That's why they're called Snow White. However, this depends on the flour and many other things. Don’t worry if it doesn’t come out white. Don’t burn them though.

Make the cream:
Dissolve the flour in cold water, add sugar. Boil on fire – bain-marie or whatever you prefer – or microwave (make sure it does not stick at all). Microwave = @8 minutes.
Remove it and allow 20 minutes to cool down, add the peanut butter (or margarine/butter). Mix thoroughly until all peanut butter is incorporated. Use a wooden spoon.
Cut the sheet in two (if you made only one), spread the cream onto one side evenly. Save some for the top. Put a the other part on the other one, press slightly, add the remaining cream.

The pictures are from different recipes just to show you the steps. 

The peanut butter has a different colour. Right?
Now, you would want to eat it right away. You can’t. It needs at least 5 hours to cool down and become soft. 8 hours would be better. In the fridge, but it’s not fundamentally. Just don’t keep in direct light of the sun or in a hot room. 

As you can see, it could have up to 4-5 layers
It took me two hours to write it down. I am quite upset because of it. That’s one reason I don’t publish recipes anymore. They are extremely time-consuming. Please leave a comment if you use it. 

For more imagines check these links from my Romanian blog: 1, 2, 3. You don't have to understand Romanian, just check the steps. 

Put the fried/toasted nuts on. 
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Saturday, 15 July 2017

Constructive criticism = Arrogance in disguise

I have quite a few social accounts because of my blogging interest.
I know how being bullied feels like. I have been bullied for years and unfortunately, it will happen in the future too.
Over the years I learnt to ignore the "constructive criticism" which is nothing less than hatred, frustration, arrogance, and so on, in disguise. 
Now it just makes me smile, although I am sad inside.
Humans forgot what defines humanity. We just want to criticise, abuse, and prove others how smart we are.
If a person is fat, you don't have to tell her that. She/he knows. Don't be a d***! Even if she/he is unaware and arrogant, you still shouldn't tell her/him that in the same manner.
If you are smarter, you focus on yourself. You are not perfect, are you? 

The tone is fundamental. Don't use an aggressive tone. All right? 

Let's discuss those comments related to grammar or linguistic errors, especially. They make me cringe in horror.
I am Romanian, my language has many rules difficult to learn. One of the most challenging is separating words with hyphens, e.g. "Ma-ta-i frumoasa, manca-ti-as gurita ta. Tac-tu-i prost ca nu vede." Iin English is: "Your mother is beautiful really (*?) If your father can't see that, he's stupid. 
Now some Romanians would like to contradict my translation. Fair enough, it's a matter of perspectives.
*"Manca-ti-as gurita ta," shouldn't be translated. It's here because I couldn't come up with something better. It doesn't make any sense in English. Anyway, here it is: "to eat your little mouth". Have a laugh now.
This is A SLANG expression that a highly educated Romanian would use (don't learn it!!!). It is though very popular within the gipsy minority from where it comes. I never use it and I am not a highly educated person.
As you can see, it looks pretty complicated. And it is... if you didn't learn to master the basics of Romanian language when you were seven. If you moved on without mastering this, you're f***ed.
And most of us didn't. We chose to master the art of throwing stones one at one another or watched telenovelas with our mothers. If we were born after 1990. I was born in 1975. There were no telenovelas. Thank God for that. Stones were invented before and they were everywhere (even where they shouldn't have to be), but I was busy with reading.

Anyway, my point is, although I am quite okay with using my Romanian language skills, I wouldn't go to show to the world how smart I am by correcting someone else.
If you wonder if I am bullied for my Romanian language skills, the answer is "NO, I am not." Phew...

Don't correct others if they didn't ask for your help. You are not their teacher. You are just a very frustrated individual who's got nothing else to do in his/her hollow existence. Mind your own business, mate! Take a life actually.

The reasons I am constantly bullied for are:

  • My creativity: writing skills.
  • The fight against discriminations

I wrote about this many times. The bullying made me give up blogging for more than a year. They pushed me down and I got badly hurt. They stepped on my dignity, spit on my work and laughed when I twisted in pain.
But, because of them, I moved to England. So, thank you, highly frustrated creatures, with no life. 
If you don't like my poetry – don't read it. 
If you don't like my books – don't buy them.
If you don't like my vlogs (videos) – don't waste your time listening to all of them. 
What are you? A masochist? 

Make no mistake: The more you attack me, the stronger I become. You are the reason I aim higher. So bring it on!
I spent more than 15 years of my life forcing my mind to accept that some humans have nothing human inside. I know who I am. I know how my stories are. You can think what you like, it's your right. You may like it or not, I appreciate that.
I didn't like Harry Poter, for example. It's a brilliant story, I can tell that thousands of times. The author is a genius, but it's not my taste. However, I didn't go and told everyone that in a violent or arrogant manner. I respect people's work and brilliance, regardless of the fact I don't resonate with it.

Why do you feel the need to throw the darkness of your soul on others? 
It makes you feel better? If so, you are not a good person. You scare me, but I don't fear you.
You are free to express your hatred disguised in constructive criticism and I am sorry for those who read it.

We all have different tastes before you leave a negative review ask yourself: Would I like to read what I am about to write? 
I tell you straight away, "NO, you wouldn't!" Creature with no soul.
I am not referring to reviews to products that claim to do/give something good and they fail to do that. I don't speak about products with misleading or false claims. All right? Those should actually not be on the market. But..

Respect the Golden Rule: "One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself."
What you spread around it will come back to you in a way or around. In this life or the next, or the next and so on. You'll pay for your action, and not because you will be punished by God or the universe. They don't punish anyone. You punish yourself by punishing others. You'll drown in the tears people shed because of you.

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Image from Pixabay

A few years back I dared to write on a public wall a comment to a photo I really didn't like. The phrase added to the photo bothered me quite a lot. That person was very close to me. The reaction to that was catastrophic. A tsunami of insolence, hatred, offences, refrained frustration, resentment, that took me by surprise. My shock was planetary. I don't speak to that person anymore. I admit, I made a terrible mistake. I should have asked for sorry, but I have my reasons not to do so. Because of that, I understood how that person really feels for me and it hurt like hell. 
I learnt a great lesson. I've never done that again and I will never will. Learn it too. 
Some insecure people are capable of killing when they defend themselves. It's no exaggeration. 

Thursday, 13 July 2017

My Firs Novel–Amazing Book Trailer


My dear readers, my first novel that made me become a registered author, is Live on Amazon. It's been so for two days. However, because of an unhappy misunderstanding, it's not on paperback version just yet. 
This fact made me very upset and refused to inform my fans about it. 


The book trailer melted my heart so I won't keep it quiet anymore. Have a look, people. Isn't it amazing?