Saturday, 3 December 2016

Movies that make you grow


I am undergoing a series of changes in my life. All drastic and extremely important.

Although I love movies and I used to watch TV series, I don't do it anymore (since I started writing). I gave up on all my other hobbies and focused on studying the psychology of making your own future.
I needed inspiration so I decided to watch some documentaries, but also motivational and inspirational movies. I never thought that a movie about criminals, boxers, football, bodybuilding could give me something. God, I was wrong!

I watched movies with actors or people I never liked, subjects that I had no interest in, and I am glad I did! Russell Crowe became my favourite actor ever.
Leonardo di Caprio is an artist I started to respect after watching The Aviator. I was shocked to know that he didn't get an Oscar for that. Really?! He finally got it for The Revenant though. It was about time he'll get one. I can't wait to watch The crowded room. 

I made a list with the stories that shook my beliefs. I learned so much and I am grateful that the movie business decided to make them, so I could start believing in miracles.

I saw many others, but these are the ones that gave me something precious: Faith and Hope. "If they can do it, I can do it." - It is just a matter of taste, keep that in mind.

Cinderella Man - Russell Crowe - Based on a true story.- Wow, wow, wow!  "What do you fight for?" asked a newsman and James said: "Milk." - I am a crier, I admit, and this movie made me shed thousands of tears. From start to end. I am definitely not a person who goes for sad movies, and box is not my thing, however, this was the most inspirational movie I ever watched in my whole existence. What a lesson! No other story touched my heart in this way. I watched it three times in two weeks and the only other movies I watched more than once were comedies: Scary Movie 4 and Dracula dead and loving. If you have a dream, a purpose and you feel it can't be fulfilled, watch  this movie and pay attention. Prepare a box of tissues and loads of chips.

Beautiful Mind - Russell Crowe - Based on a true story. - Again, my eyes blurred with tears. Many have rolled down my burning cheeks. The struggles of a sane mind, are a joke compared to a damaged one. Incredible. A must watch.

Slumdog Millionaire - Dev Patel - I love this guy, he's hot and extremely talented. Unbelievable what people can do for love.

The man who knew infinity - Dev Patel - Based on a true story. - A genius who was aware of  being one. Not a happy ending, but such an amazing story.

3 Idiots - Hindi Movie - Aamir Khan, Madhavan, Sharman Joshy - A comedy with quite a few lessons to learn. Just don't learn to disobey if you're not a genius.

The pursuit of happyness - Will Smith - Based on a true story. -  I am sure you know it. A single father trying to give a better future to his son. So many struggles, sacrifices, pain, despair, resilience. Fight until you get what you work for. Never give up.

Shawshank Redemption - Tim Robbins, Morgan Freeman - I went around this movie for months, I simply couldn't see how a movie about criminals could teach me anything. What a story, what a mind, what a will.. = "Red" Redding: I have to remind myself that some birds aren't meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright."

The memoirs of a Geisha - Japanese love story with Zhang Ziyi I am sure you've heard of it, if you're a woman who believe in love. I watched twice in 10 years. 

About time - British love story with Domhnall Gleeson, Bill Nighy - This is a romantic drama and I am not fond of Love stories. The first one in this genre I watched on purpose, and I am so glad I chose to watch it. Many things to learn.

Sliding doors - Love story with Gwyneth Paltrow, John Hannah - Parallel universes. No matter what you do, your destiny it will still fulfil. Kind a scary idea, and I disagree with it. I am convinced you can change your fate.

The Fighter - Box movie with Mark Walhberg, Christian Bale - Based on a true story. - Family can destroy your life if you let it.

Facing the Giants - American football with Alex Kendrick. - Nothing is impossible for God. = Luke 1:37.

The secret - Bob Proctor, Joe Vitale, John Assaraf  - Documentary about the invisible power of the Universe. Law of Attraction.

Pumping Iron Arnold Schwarzenegger - Documentary. - Work, work, work and self confidence will bring you the success you are aiming for.

Any other ideas, would be highly appreciated.


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Friday, 25 November 2016

I believe

I recently read some of my old posts.
If I didn't know better, I'd say that they weren't written by me. And they weren't... not by the person I am today.
I lost my cynicism and sense of irony. I laugh, maybe less, but I am happier. I understand more and I want to know more, and more and more. I value different things, I changed my priorities.

I've changed a lot in my life and I will keep changing until my soul will find peace.
In the next post I will write about the movies that helped me grow and understand many things.

Today I believe in miracles.
I believe that you could eat crisps, chips, meat, potatoes and bread/pasta, chocolate, cakes, and whatever you want and keep healthy and in perfect shape. Balance and exercise.
I believe that gentlemen are not extinct and humans are not all aesthetically modified.
I believe people can change completely from a day to another. I believe that chronically unhappy people, drug addicts, alcoholics, criminals could become humans and whole again.
I believe that happiness is a state of mind, therefore a choice. 
I believe that there is someone for each of us in this Universe or in a parallel one.
I believe in respect, tolerance and understanding.
I believe that people still read and appreciate books.
I believe I am a writer and my books will be published.
I believe I'll have my own house with a real fireplace soon. I am that, I am.
I believe you could live alone for whole your life if you like yourself, and never feel lonely.
I believe that strangers could make you feel important, even more often than your parents/family can.
I believe in honesty and purity of mind and soul.
I believe that women can be sexy without being naked.
I believe in God, El, Allah, Buddha, Krishna or whatever he/she's called.
Today I believe in Love; in second, third, fourth and so on chance, so I am taking them all. Despite the fact I've never met a man who knew what love is.



Maybe it will take me some more years until I'll believe in Santa Claus again, but for now, I believe I'll have a glass of red wine.

I wish you all peace of mind. Wherever you are. Whomever you might be with. No matter your size, height or weight; You are beautiful; so love yourself and others will follow.
And please, start believing in something, just chose a good thing.


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Wednesday, 9 November 2016

Characters and dreams


Last year, on my birthday, I realised that my life was going nowhere, so after a long period of wandering in the dark, I decided it was time to give it a purpose. 

Very late, if you ask me, but it appears that you cannot see or understand things if you're not ready.
Better late than never, right?



I love reading, I used to read at least three books a week. I was addicted, yes, but my addiction hurt no one. I lived so many different lives through the eyes of each character. Saw different worlds, met thousands of people. I cried, I laughed, I struggled, I fought, I hoped, but mostly, I dreamed.

Then life happens and people tell you that dreams don't come true. Not in this life, not in this time, not in your world.
But I beg to differ. If you really believe in something, fight for it and don't allow anyone to tell you the future. Nobody has this power. Your destiny is in your hands.
It's hard work, it requires sacrifice, takes time – years – but if you don't give up, you can make it.
It is simple, but not easy.

So I have a dream and I believe it will come true. I have been working on it without even realising, and here I am today, writing stories that make me shiver.
My past, my struggles, my hopes and dreams... and so much more. Things that were real, and things that were real just in my mind.
Different stories, different worlds, different people.
And I cry and hope and fight along with my characters and all of a sudden I realised I have fallen in love with one of them. I have never thought it was possible. Can't wait to see what he's going to do next. Because I didn't plan it, I have no idea how is going to end.

When I start writing, I don't know what story my fingers will decide to type. I don't think, I don't struggle, it all comes natural and I am amazed.
My heart is racing with every word, pure adrenaline. And I know my future readers will feel just like me. Because books make you live emotions never imagined.

However I stumble... upon words and English expressions, idioms, grammatical and lexical aspects, and it keeps me back from finishing stories I should have finished months ago.
Some people are great masters of the language, but lack of ideas. I have loads of ideas, but I lack in mastering this intricate, but amazing language.
It's hard and frustrating, but I will get there one day. I know I will. And it will be glorious.


My questions are: should my stories have a happy ending or not?
Isn't the reality something we could all escape, if we wanted?
I'll wait and see, please wait with me.

Thank you to those who are unconditionally supporting me.
Thank you for offering to help. Thank you for giving me a hand with my English skills.
Writing is the first step, Proofreading is the next, extremely demanding, I am so very aware of that.
Thank you for believing and giving me HOPE.
One day you'll be rewarded.

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Monday, 31 October 2016

World vegan day


On 1st of November, vegans around the world are celebrating the benefits of veganism for the animals, environment and human health.

I am guessing it's not easy to be vegan and I salute their determination.

I have many vegan friends and when I asked them why have they decided to give up meat, eggs, milk, fish and every aliment that comes from animals, most of them said it was for health reasons.

Some said it was for the love of animals. And this is a great reason to become a vegan.

I am not vegan, but I do not often eat animal products. It's a choice I guess, but is somehow unconscious. When imagines of animals being tortured by humans come to my memory, it makes it impossible for me to eat their meat.

I've met vegans who were imposing their choice on other with extreme aggressiveness. I didn't like that. Every each of us is free to eat whatever they like.

You can explain to people why you're doing it and provide proves to your statements, but don't become a dictator in the name of something you chose to believe in.

The fact you're vegan, doesn't necessarily mean you're better than those who eat meat, eggs or cookies made with butter.

And if the love for animals is behind your choice of being vegan, be consistent and don't wear fur or clothes/shoes made from leather. Don't buy leather furniture or other stuff that is clearly made with animal materials. Ethic.


Animals are exploited every day by and for humans. Our survival is not tied up to killing animals, there are other aliments we could eat, but it's a personal decision.

Don't make this choice a fight against corporations/companies which earn money from selling meat or other animal products.
Hate in the name of love, is not admirable. But of course, this is just my opinion. 


I give thanks to every vegan in the world for their style of life and I hope they spread love around.
That is what we all need.


Have a day full of love.

Ps. There are many vegan recipes on my blog De gustibus non est disputandum (although is not in English, there is a free translator you could use) and on here too. 

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Friday, 28 October 2016

A hair experience


I love my hair and I take good care of it. I often use natural masks to make it look (and be) healthy and shiny.
I wash it almost every day when I go to work because I run in the morning and I am sweaty. Cannot stand that. I use a daily shampoo, balsam/mask and a natural oil.

I wish it was (honey or gold) blonde and had big curls, but... . 
It used to be curly and blonde until I was 19, after that it got darker and darker and my curls simply decided to not stay. I was sad for a few years, but I had to accept it in the end. It's not a tragedy.
Now it seems to go towards the gray, on some parts of my head, and has some waves in it, which is better than nothing.
I never aimed to have gray hair, especially not at this age. I had no other choice than use hair colourant to hide that infamous and not desirable shade of gray.

Last year was the first time when I dyed my hair: blonde, of course. I loved it. But as I always wanted to see how red suits me, I tried a Molotov cream combination: 2 types of blonde and a very dark cherry. The result was spectacular! The blue of my eyes seemed to be even deeper. I was not shocked in any way. It was a great experience. But I got tired and as I like colourful clothing and very deep lipstick, I had to go back to blonde.


I don't go to hairdressers often. I almost always had long hair and as it was curly, it was easy to cut it myself. I cut it badly a few times... well, several times, but I survived. Great lessons!
In my country, I went just once in 22 years and I've remained traumatized for life. I said never again.

While I was living in Italy, I had a friend who was a very appreciated  hairstylist. He persuaded me to go and have my hair done at his salon. I agreed. I didn't know how to relax my body so after two hours of hard work on my hair (wash, cut and highlights), my neck was completely ankylosed. So painful! I felt like a wolf for a week - Wolves cannot twist their neck, they have to turn the whole body to look behind, right or left. You knew that, right?
My friend said it looked very natural.
“Who told you I wanted a natural look?!”

I went to visit my brother and asked him if he liked the new look of my hair.
“What new look? Your hair looks the same since you were 18.” He said with innocence.
I thought: “Well, he's a man. It's normal that he can't see it.”
So, I went to ask my sister and she said exactly the same.
“Dammit! 2 hours wasted, £ 90 (it was a very friendly price), a blocked neck for a week and nobody sees any difference?! I didn't ask for a natural look, I wanted something that anyone could see. I am done with hairdressers!”

When I came to England, a friend saw me cutting my hair with an old pair of scissors. He took pity on me and booked me an appointment with his hairstylist. It was a good experience, but not too good. I still didn't have the courage to let people “playing” with my beautiful hair.

Then I went to another salon and they made me feel like a criminal for have tried to dye my hair at home. "That's what people do. They ruin their hair, then expect us to do miracles." - Although I thought it was generally true, it was definitely not my case, and I decided "Never again".

After that, I booked an appointment with a another hairdresser in Exeter. They cancelled my appointment at the very last moment. "It happens", I thought, but I couldn't manage to fix another one to suit me. When I called to complain they told me that I shouldn't be rude. I was shocked and assured them I will never be their client, not even if they were the only hair salon on Earth.

After three negative experiences in two years, I have completely lost my faith in hairstylists.

One day I was on Groupon when I spotted a great deal to one of so many hairdressers in town. I decided to take a risk again and go.
I prayed for hours before going to bed the night before and I had a very agitated sleep time. In the morning, I almost asked for a refund, but I am no coward. :p
At 1Pm, I went inside the LXS @ Centre Stage (Exeter - South street) and welcomed by Tina, a very nice young woman. The first impression was great.

I then been seated by Lauren - a very sweet girl with long hair and Italian background - and offered coffee and magazines. She washed my hair and applied some magical treatment that instantly transformed my frizzy hair into silk. I was amazed.

Then Michaela stepped in. Tall, slim and with a beautiful hair colour that suited her very well. I told her that she should consider a modelling career, but she said she had no model face.
I said she was right: "You are too beautiful to be a model."
A young hairstylist, very passionate about her job. We talked about many things: colours, desires, dreams, plans, friends, the weather of course (It's England, the weather is the main subject of discussion in here).
I didn't want anything too extravagant, but when she's asked me how would I wanted my hair to look at the end, I said: curly. And she made it curly. Just as I always dreamed.


It was simply gorgeous. Then she taught me how to keep the curls for a few days. And I listened. Luckily, I didn't have to go to work on Friday, so after 2 days and 2 nights, the curls were still in. I had no idea that was possible!!!

Then she offered me a £ 10 voucher for the next visit and I must tell you that I cannot wait to go and have my hair done by those girls. They gained my trust and loyalty by simply doing their jobs with devotion and being themselves.
A great experience in all and for all.

Thank you, LXS @ Centre Stage, for being close to your clients and giving me so many reasons to take time and write this post. 

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